tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post8176624567416437560..comments2023-08-04T06:28:03.551-06:00Comments on (un)Scripted Sexuality: The aftermath.Sasha Sapphohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05400657273516424091noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-29080607661752938632008-09-26T15:38:00.000-06:002008-09-26T15:38:00.000-06:00Yay! This is a lovely post, and I am so incredibl...Yay! This is a lovely post, and I am so incredibly both relieved and proud to see that you took something like that and turned it so the silver lining is what is touching you now. <3.Amaltheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10454407895127778441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-20183269104141722632008-09-25T00:52:00.000-06:002008-09-25T00:52:00.000-06:00I'm glad to hear you're feeling alright - and yes ...I'm glad to hear you're feeling alright - and yes I was a little surprised in your last post when you had defined what you considered 'assault' because I felt like that what you experienced was almost inarguably assault; unwanted sexual contact. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the add btw =)Leanne MIrandillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05524086823868771885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-79541716543297138252008-09-24T07:57:00.000-06:002008-09-24T07:57:00.000-06:00You know, I could have sworn I'd left a comment, b...You know, I could have sworn I'd left a comment, but then maybe I didn't because I'm getting old and feeble minded!<BR/><BR/>I think what I intended to write was along the lines of: If you want to surrender yourself to somebody else's control, who's rough and dominant and degrading, that's fine because YOU decided to consent to that.<BR/><BR/>The brain is the biggest sexual organ and teasing that with sexy concepts of power, control, domination, submission etc. is highly erotic.<BR/><BR/>What those obnoxious strangers did was inexcusable - they touched you and sexually assaulted you, without caring about whether you'd consent (or feel violated.) That's just disgusting and not even in the same ballpark as any consensual sexual activity (no matter how rough.)Roland Hulmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08979437320446956987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-30886569795296635552008-09-23T22:10:00.000-06:002008-09-23T22:10:00.000-06:00I think you have it right. Rough sex, even to the...I think you have it right. Rough sex, even to the point of being abusive, is acceptable to the extent you make a conscious decision to accept it. But that happens only if your partner(s) understand(s) that, when you tell them "no more," you mean it, and they respect you enough to stop. In the end, everything must be based on respect and love, and the people you are with must honor your wishes, just as you must do for them.<BR/><BR/>Again, my thoughts go out to you, and I hope you never again experience anything like that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-83822589127815475452008-09-23T19:07:00.000-06:002008-09-23T19:07:00.000-06:00I think you have a wonderful grasp of the issues, ...I think you have a wonderful grasp of the issues, actually. Especially the "doesn't mean that" statements. We have the right to accept different behaviours in different contexts from different people, without feeling that we are being inconsistent or hypocritical at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com