tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post111489979442369340..comments2023-08-04T06:28:03.551-06:00Comments on (un)Scripted Sexuality: on love and friendshipSasha Sapphohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05400657273516424091noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-12633866196769962432008-11-26T10:10:00.000-07:002008-11-26T10:10:00.000-07:00What I wanted to say has been covered by all here....What I wanted to say has been covered by all here..So I won't bore again saying the same things but would really like to appreciate your work. Great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-9083934316153258702008-11-19T07:42:00.000-07:002008-11-19T07:42:00.000-07:00Something for amalthea - the original Felix Leiter...Something for amalthea - the original Felix Leiter, in the James Bond books, was a straw-haired Texan, inspiring James Bond to say: "On the whole, Americans were good people - and the best of them came from Texas."<BR/><BR/>Whenever I meet a Texan, I tell 'em that.Roland Hulmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08979437320446956987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-9081155913648163482008-11-19T06:54:00.000-07:002008-11-19T06:54:00.000-07:00Brilliant post!I don't think it's a 'terrible' hab...Brilliant post!<BR/><BR/>I don't think it's a 'terrible' habit at all, to fall for/fool about with your friends. The vast majority of my friends are women, since I'm not exactly a 'lad' and have really got the whole soccer, male-bonding, thing. I get on better with girls and of the female friends I have, I think I'd have to say I'd find all of them, attractive.<BR/><BR/>I mean, I think the reason one finds somebody attractive as a friend is partly the same as why you'd find them attractive as a partner (at least in sane, rational people.) I've never understood my friends who date utter losers or total opposites or people they just plain don't seem to LIKE.<BR/><BR/>Like doesn't always become love. But love should always have a bit of like in there.<BR/><BR/>Nope, I think this just illustrates that you're a smart person - and you CLEARLY have lucky friends.Roland Hulmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08979437320446956987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-65473657877147652862008-11-18T16:28:00.000-07:002008-11-18T16:28:00.000-07:00Feeling guilty for a consensual makeout session wi...Feeling guilty for a consensual makeout session with a friend? Of course you shouldn't.<BR/><BR/>Let me make the most obvious observation: if the Texan didn't want to do it, he could have told you to stop. He didn't.<BR/><BR/>You owe no one any obligation of sexual fealty unless you agree to it. Based on what I've read here and in your cast of characters, you've made no such vows. You should be free to kiss, touch and fuck anyone with whom you want to do it, and who will do it with you.<BR/><BR/>Having said that, certainly it's much more meaningful to make love to people you already have feelings for . . . i.e., your friends. And why should there be a wall between sex and other activities you enjoy with your friends, provided you're taking precautions against pregnancy and the spread of disease? You've observed it doesn't tend to ruin your relationships.<BR/><BR/>As for the future, there are many new friends for all of us to make. A year ago I wasn't with Nimue; now look at us. A year from now you may be saying the same about one or more of your new friends and lovers.Merlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07834928397917294563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-78719014740801023082008-11-18T03:05:00.000-07:002008-11-18T03:05:00.000-07:00I was going to add something here but the comment ...I was going to add something here but the comment above this has it all covered & I couldn't improve on it :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7288035126856205400.post-15168248442617061632008-11-18T00:09:00.000-07:002008-11-18T00:09:00.000-07:00I thought I'd check in on the blogosphere's sexies...I thought I'd check in on the blogosphere's sexiest denizen tonight before I passed out after a long day... and wow. It's been a while since I completely felt like I wrote an entire portion of your blog since I'm not in Europe... um, but here we go again. <BR/><BR/>This is how I am, how my life has been up until the last year. My current BFF is entirely straight, so she's the one friend nothing has ever really happened with - if she wasn't though it would have. My other current friends are more acquaintances, and I've only met them post relationship with SP starting - so they're also 'safe' relationships. But even not that close friends often have sexual moments with me. Boob groping, ass smacking, conversations that make my boyfriend uncomfortable because I'm talking about these things with someone else, kissing, whathaveyou. <BR/><BR/>I think there are several reasons. One: I love my friends. I find them attractive mentally and if I like someone mentally I'll find them even more physically attractive. They also like me. I trust them - the number one reason this happens on my end, I have major trust issues. They trust me. <BR/><BR/>With other people - those that choose to confide in me, I make it clear I accept them. I make it clear I consider what they said important. You did both of these things. That creates trust and a bond, even if you're not close friends you shared something they haven't with someone else. That's powerful stuff.<BR/><BR/>And then the final major component:<BR/>The openness and comfort with sexuality and sexual topics - that often seems to seal it with other people. I bet it's the same with you. People sense that they can trust you to talk about these things, and they therefore feel very close to you, and are possibly more sexually aware of themselves and your sexuality when you're around. Hence the sometimes spontaneous combustion?<BR/><BR/>I don't think you need to feel guilty. You weren't using him for anything it sounds like - therefore, you're in the clear. You both provided one another with fun, friendship, someone to share your situation with, and a little yummy saliva. I would say all's well. ;) Especially if it's not awkward to talk to him now. If it is, then you should just talk it out and flat apologize like you would with a close friend.<BR/><BR/>Let me change tactics on you here too... if you told someone something like that, and they then went out and proceeded to have a fantastic time with you, made out with you at a bar, and continued to non-awkwardly be friends with you after... how would you feel? I'd feel pretty, sexy, more confident in my sexuality, and comforted. Seriously. So, I bet he's doing ok.<BR/><BR/>Ps - I'm from Texas! Yay Texas! :D<BR/>I'm also glad you came to some happy conclusions about Crush that work for you and it helped you process through to what you really want. You deserve everything you want, and it's nice to hear you know that! I adore you, goodnight my sweet.Amaltheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10454407895127778441noreply@blogger.com